Building Respectful Families

The Building Respectful Families Project is a service for families who are affected by Child to Parent Violence (CPV), across the Thames Valley. It is a restorative family focused approach rather than a parenting or anger management programme. The BRF Project continues to provide support for families during COVID-19, providing a mixture of remote and face-to-face support, where it is safe to do so. Most of our groups are now full for the Autumn term, please contact us for more information.

What is Child on Parent Violence (CPV)? 

CPV is any behaviour used by a young person to control, dominate or coerce parents.  It is intended to threaten and intimidate and it puts family safety at risk.  Whilst it is normal for children and adolescents to demonstrate healthy anger, conflict, frustration and to test boundaries during the transition from childhood to adulthood; anger should not be confused with violence and abuse.  Anger is an emotional response; violence is about a range of behaviours, including non-physical acts, which are rooted in power and control. 

How can I refer?

Referrals are usually made by professionals who already know the family and we ask that they remain involved and maintain their support for the family once our support starts.   Once a referral has been received, we will get in touch with the referrer and the family within 5 working days to discuss their needs, agree a bespoke plan together and identify time-scales for support. 

What support is available?
 

The exact nature of the support will depend on what a family’s needs are. We have a specialist Team of BRF Workers who can provide 121 support for young people and their parents / carers; offer support for siblings also affected; and work with extended family members.  We also deliver the BRF Group Programme.  This is a restorative 10-week programme which involves young people and their parents / carers attending separate, but simultaneous groups.  We are adapting our services to meet the needs of families, whilst following the latest guidance to ensure we are COVID-safe.  Please contact us to talk more about the support available

How do I know if it is the right place to refer a family? 

Young people must be aged 8 to 18 to be eligible for support and live within the Thames Valley area.  The young person and their parent / carer both need to consent to support.  They need to be motivated to change their current situation, to seek to find their own resolutions and move to a more respectful way of interacting with each other. 

Please note, we are not a crisis service. Please speak to a GP or CAMHS if a young person needs help with severe emotional or mental health difficulties.  

If you are concerned for your own, or someone else’s safety in an emergency, contact 999.  We know this may be an incredibly difficult decision to make if you are the parent of a child who has become violent, but this can diffuse situations and help restore safety to the home.  

For a copy of information for referrers click here

For a copy of information for families click here

For all enquiries please contact brf@safeproject.org.uk

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Funded by The National Lottery Community Fund & BBC Children in Need