Building Respectful Families

Building Respectful Families (BRF) is a free, specialist service for families who are affected by a child or young person (aged 8 to 18) using harmful, explosive, or violent behaviours towards their parent/s or caregiver/s. This is sometimes referred to as Child and Adolescent to Parent Violence and Abuse (CAPVA).

The BRF service provides information, advice, training and support to families and professionals impacted by this.  

We accept requests for support directly from families living in Oxfordshire, Buckinghamshire, or Berkshire.  We can also accept requests via professionals. 

Please note that BRF is not a crisis service.  If you need help in an emergency, contact 999.    To speak to the police in a non-emergency situation dial 111.  The National Domestic Abuse helpline is open 24 hours a day 0808 2000 247, they also have a live-chat option.

Before contacting us, please read our flyer which can be located here


How can I request support?

Are you a parent or caregiver looking for help? 

Request support for yourself here  


Are you a professional, wanting to enquire about support for a parent / caregiver who you are working with? (You will need to have obtained the consent of the family to share their details)

Request support for a parent/caregiver here using the parent/caregiver details.


What happens next?

We aim to acknowledge your request as soon as possible, and within five working days.  

Once a request for support is received, a BRF practitioner will be allocated to respond and will work in partnership to complete an assessment of needs, before an offer of support is made. 


Find out more about our industry nominated CPD training course or contact us to discuss a bespoke session to meet your needs.

Please email us


We are looking to develop connections with our partner organisations, to maximise the support for families affected by CAPVA.   Please contact the team to discuss how we could support your organisation. 

For this and all other enquiries please email the team - 



Parent Testimony about a BRF parent support group:

"I feel this group is extremely valuable and offers a safe non-judgmental space to share thoughts and feelings.  Because I did not feel judged, I was able to really reflect on our situation in an adult way and start to make some changes which have worked and made a difference to me and my child"


Young Person Testimony about BRF support:

“I react differently now.   And my Mum tries to talk more about things. We are kinder to each other.”